"You can't do this" – How beliefs affect our lives

Each of us believes in something. Even those who think they don’t believe in anything. “I have to adapt.” “I can’t show any weakness.” Or also: “It runs in our family.” We all know such sentences. According to a study by Harvard University, a person hears 180,000 negative suggestions by the age of 18. If they are repeated often enough, they become established. They become beliefs.

In psychology, it means deep beliefs that express our attitudes towards ourselves and assumptions about life itself. Often we are not rationally aware of these beliefs. But from the unconscious they powerfully control our perception. Beliefs are the glasses through which we see reality. They shape our self-worth.

Most beliefs are formed during our childhood through interaction with our caregivers.

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