For one out of three men, premature ejaculation is a problem they may encounter. The condition is characterized by the inability to delay ejaculation for more than one minute.
(or really, less than the desired amount of time for sexual activity) following penetration. It can have an adverse effect on relationships and cause distress and anxiety in men who suffer from it. Fortunately, there are treatments available that can help alleviate the symptoms of premature ejaculation. By following the proper medical advice, you can find relief and find ways to deal with this issue head-on. Below are some helpful tips and treatment options for premature ejaculation.
Learn Relaxation Techniques
Deep breathing exercises, visualization, and mindfulness meditation are all proven methods to help relax the body and mind during sexual activity. This can help reduce muscle tension, slow down arousal levels, and calm the nerves associated with premature ejaculation. Studies show that many men who suffer from PE also have social phobias, or anxiety.
When suffering from social anxiety, some symptoms might include:
- Fear of being judged by others
- Avoiding social situations
- Difficulty making and maintaining eye contact
- Feeling anxious or self-conscious in public
If you’re experiencing any of these symptoms outside of the bedroom, it could indicate a deeper issue rooted in your PE. Learning relaxation techniques can be a great way to combat this anxiety outside and inside the bedroom.
Talk to your Partner
Communication is key in any sexual relationship. Talk to your partner about the issue and let them know what you are going through. This will help build understanding and create a more supportive environment so that both partners can work together to manage the symptoms of premature ejaculation.
For instance, if your partner has recently been more concerned about your PE, he or she might express hurtful comments such as, “Maybe you shouldn’t be so nervous” or “Get over it.” However, premature ejaculation doesn’t have a simple fix all of the time. If you feel your partner is putting too much pressure on you to perform, it’s never a bad idea to tell them how you feel and express your struggles. The right partner will help reduce your fears, understand your frustration, and also help you find ways to overcome your PE.
Try Medications
Certain medicines, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), may be prescribed to help increase the time it takes to ejaculate. While this is not a cure for premature ejaculation, it can be helpful in certain cases. Talk to your doctor about possible medications that could work for you.
Paroxetine has been found to be an effective medication for a variety of conditions, including depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD). It is thought to work by increasing the levels of serotonin in the brain, which helps regulate mood.
Paroxetine is not suitable for everyone and can sometimes cause side effects such as nausea, headache, insomnia, and drowsiness. It should be used with caution in certain populations such as pregnant women who are at an increased risk of birth defects. If you are taking paroxetine, it is important to follow the instructions of your doctor beforehand. This is just one of many SSRIs available, and it is up to you and your doctor to decide which one is best for you.
It is also important to be aware of the potential interactions between paroxetine and other medications that you may be taking. Some drugs can interact with paroxetine in potentially dangerous ways so always check with your doctor before starting a new drug.
Try Behavioral Therapy
A type of psychotherapy called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is sometimes used to treat premature ejaculation. This approach helps men change their thought patterns and behaviors associated with ejaculation in order to help them last longer during intercourse.
For instance, many men might experience thoughts such as, “I’m going to fail at this and not last enough,” known as catastrophizing. CBT can help individuals to identify these thoughts and challenge them with more realistic, healthy alternatives. It can also help individuals learn how to manage their emotions better and cope with stress in a productive way. Additionally, CBT can be used to address relationship issues by teaching effective communication skills and interpersonal problem-solving tools. Finally, CBT can help individuals develop healthier behaviors overall in their relationship and everyday life.
Try Delay Sprays
Getting a product designed to treat premature ejaculation may also be a helpful solution. Since there are multiple products out there, it’s important to read reviews before making a purchase. Many men opt for delay sprays or numbing sprays, which are put directly onto the shaft of the penis before intercourse. These delay sprays are made of a numbing agent known as lidocaine, and are safe to use during intercourse when following the proper guidelines.
For both men and women, delay sprays can lead to a longer-lasting sexual intimacy session, can help reduce the symptoms of premature ejaculation, and is an affordable alternative to medication and therapy. It’s best to buy a delay spray with good reviews and one that doesn’t have a history of triggering adverse reactions in men.
The Bottom Line
It’s important to know you’re not alone in battling premature ejaculation. By finding a solution that works for you, following medical advice from your doctors or therapists, and speaking with your partner, you can be well on your way toward enjoying intimacy fully again.
